Being a mom at midlife isn’t for the faint of heart, especially when you’re navigating all the things that lead to toxic burnout. I’m Dr. Cynthia Edwards-Hawver, licensed clinical psychologist and certified coach.with 25 years of experience helping women move from survivor to thriver. I know firsthand that healing isn’t a quick fix and I’m on a mission to help moms stop shrinking themselves for others and start living their best life. Each episode of The Mama Shrink podcast is filled with useful and practical information that you can implement into your own journey of motherhood. It’s a place to come where you can feel less alone and validated for the complex challenges mom’s face in this increasingly complex world. We’ll dive deep into setting boundaries, overcoming burnout, dealing with guilt, divorce, death, grief, toxic relationships, true healing, becoming a single mom, empowerment, self-care, psychological diagnoses, parenting challenges and advice, aging, friendship, finding your true self, mindset, self-worth, and much more. This is a place where you can embrace everything that it means to be a woman and a mom. No topic is off limits and each episode is filled with compassion, authenticity, and integrity. You don’t have to do this alone. Subscribe today. Being a mom is the hardest job in the world and you don’t have to do this alone. The Mama Shrink Podcast is real, raw, and unapologetically honest and dives deep into topics such as: Burnout & Emotional Exhaustion—Why midlife moms are drowning & how to rise again ✅ Healing from Toxic Relationships—Recognizing the patterns keeping you stuck ✅ Generational Trauma & Breaking the Cycle—Why your past keeps showing up in your present ✅ Divorce & Single Motherhood—Navigating family shifts & rebuilding on your terms ✅ Reclaiming Your Identity—Who are you beyond being a mom, wife, or caregiver? ✅ Mindset, Boundaries & Self-Worth—The real work of healing & transformation If you’re tired of just surviving and are ready to start thriving, you’re in the right place. You don’t have to do this alone. It’s time to break free from burnout, own your truth, and step into the life you deserve. Subscribe now & let’s start this journey together.
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Tuesday Nov 28, 2023
Tuesday Nov 28, 2023
I would like to dive into the concept of mindset shifting in the next 2 episodes of the Mama Shrink Podcast because I feel that this is such a big thing. It’s one thing to think about something in a certain way and it’s a whole different level when you really believe what you’re talking about. This comes down to the whole concept of the biology of belief.
So today, I’m going to talk about self-sabotage. What is it, how do we do it, and why we do it. I have personally engaged in self-sabotaged throughout my life and have seen this cycle in many women that I have worked with over the years. I share about this in order to help you move out of this vicious cycle and become a happier mom and woman.
So, let’s discuss Self-Sabotage
- Self-sabotage is a purposeful choice that interferes with your short-term or long- term goals.
- Self-sabotage is setting goals but not following through, procrastinating or quitting. We go into self-sabotage because our brains become habituated to being in a state of homeostasis and we want to remain in our comfort zone.
- Sometimes our comfort zone isn’t what’s best for us but what we’re used to. We feel that it’s too good to be true so we ruin it.
- Self-sabotage affects our self-esteem and pulls you down. It becomes a vicious cycle that makes us feel bad and makes us go back to our state of not achieving, growing and allowing good things to come in.
- If you keep proving to yourself that you can’t succeed or you don’t deserve good things, your brain will start to believe that.
- Signs for recognizing self-sabotage: procrastinating, feeling uncomfortable about feeling good, doing negative self-talk, feeling like you’re not good enough, picking fights, being self-critical, feeling like a fraud. Do you see yourself doing or feeling any of these things? Why are you doing it? And is this your way of self-sabotaging?
- How do we change this? It can’t change overnight. Changing self-sabotage is a gradual change and involves shifting your mindset. Here are the steps you need to take: recognize your self-sabotaging behaviors; recognize the emotions that are causing the behavior; recognize the thoughts causing the emotions; work on changing your behavior, recognize the thoughts and emotions associated with whatever you keep self-sabotaging with; and practice being okay with feeling good.
- Give yourself permission to feel good. Over time you’ll re-wire your brain and slowly start to change your mindset and belief system so that your internal state of being becomes feeling good and happy. It takes practice. Be patient with yourself because it takes time to stop self-sabotaging.
Resources:
Dr. Cynthia Hawver's website: drcynthiah.com and you can find me on the socials
@dr.cynthiahawver
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